Again...the weeks fly by.
We're in the third week of being separated from my oldest. It's not as bad as I had imagined - mainly because I keep running into her when I'm up at church! There was also a small-ish problem with her car that needed immediate fixing, so - we've been able to see her and find out how things are going.
Unfortunately, the growth has been hard for her. Aside from being WAY out of her comfort zone with the workouts, she's living with a family she never met before, and - it's just a little awkward.
It's funny how life works though. Last Wednesday, my phone was acting up. I kept turning the ringer volume up, and for whatever reason, I'd look down at it later and it was on vibrate. It was so weird. Well, later that day, I got a message from K. She'd been trying to call me earlier in the morning, because for the first time EVER, my incredibly responsible kid RAN OUT OF GAS! She called me from the side of the road, looking for help.
Initially, I thought...how AWFUL...my kiddo needed me and I wasn't THERE for her. And then I realized...I really think this was a God thing. My daughter was in a completely safe place (192nd and Dodge), she was able to call one of the leaders from her school to come and help her, and she learned a really important lesson out of the whole thing in regard to keeping gas in her car. She also learned, she doesn't need me to fix everything for her.
It was a hard lesson, accompanied by tears and embarrassment on her part, but in the end...a good lesson. Three weeks in, and she is already growing and changing!
It has been an equally challenging month for our second oldest. We all know middle school sucks, and high school does as well - with it's catty schoolgirl b.s. Well, C has now fallen to that very ridiculous garbage - from someone who really should know better. An old friend and her cronies have been spreading the rumor that C is a lesbian. Which, at first, didn't bother her, and she laughed it off. As it has gone on, however, it's worn her down. She's reached the point of concerning her father with her depression over it, and has asked to switch schools.
Obviously, our lesson on that is...nope. You have to stay where you are, and get through it. Be the bigger person, and hey - pray on it! The funny thing is - I thought it was supposed to be so cool to be gay in today's society! And yet - hurtful from kids in that environment. I think most hurtful is that, there's no reason for her former friend to behave that way. But, since when do girls in high school act rationally?
It's just a sad, hard lesson, and in the end, she'll be a stronger person for it...it's just hard watching her go through it.
So grateful this weekend for the GOOD friends God has placed around both of my older daughters...friends who know Jesus, who stand up for and protect our daughters as they deserve, and who UPLIFT them, rather than tearing them down. What a WONDERFUL blessing!!
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